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None of us asked for Alzheimer’s or dementia to come into our lives. It just showed up and shattered our expectations and dreams. How should we respond?

Caregiving for people with dementia is hard – really hard! This life-changing challenge brings sadness, fatigue, stress, anger, and a host of other unwanted emotions. We get buried by daily demands that make it difficult to step back and look at the big picture. To survive and be the best we can be, we need to find strength from our faith, our friends, and from within. This short article will suggest some ways to find strength from within.

It would be nice if we could just wish away our new reality, but as we told our kids, that’s not how life works and life isn’t fair. We shouldn’t judge ourselves by the hand we have been dealt, only by the way in which we deal with it. Our goal is to carve out the best path we can for our loved ones and ourselves.

First, maintain perspective. The sun still rises, and the birds still sing. Even amid stress and sadness, we have much to be grateful for. Most of us want to live meaningful lives that make a difference, and as Joseph Schumpeter observed, “one does not make a difference unless it is in other people’s lives.” There is something deeply human and healing about a home caregiver’s daily presence. We matter. At a critical time of need, we’re making a difference in the life of a person who has been dear to us for years. We deserve to take pride in our love, caring and discipline.

Beyond that, we are growing, getting stronger, more compassionate, more patient, and more aware of what really matters in life. We are not complacent, not coasting through life. And we make a difference in our loved ones’ lives each time we greet them with a positive attitude. Smiling, encouraging words, eye contact, and soft touching generate warmth and connection. That warmth and connection is what our loved ones crave more than anything else. Cherish those moments whenever you help create a sense of calm or happiness.

We are role models for our kids, grandkids and friends on how to face adversity with grace and discipline. We should celebrate both large and small victories. Compliment ourselves on our strength and persistence.

Keeping a journal or diary gives us an opportunity to track our experiences, which allows us to put daily activities into context, gives us a broader perspective, and provides us with a better foundation on which to make decisions. When you experience precious moments of happiness and success, write them down and add them to a list of favorite memories. This list will be comforting when you want to find support from within.

Our loved ones invariably go through periods of discontent, confusion, and obstinance that are difficult to manage. Using logical discussions to distract them usually won’t work because their lives are governed by feelings and emotions, not by facts. This is an opportunity for us to use our knowledge of their favorite subjects, interests, music, and stories to redirect their attention to something they find positive and to flip the mood. As we all know, people with dementia do not tire of reliving the same stories over and over.

When we feel isolated, we should remember that we do not have to be alone. We can connect with people in our Communities & Resources. Sharing experiences is wholesome and comforting. I found that good in-person support groups are invaluable and foster renewal. If local support groups are not available to you, virtual support groups are worth a try.

We would never have selected a course through life that is disrupted by dementia, but we will always have the opportunity to make it as loving and fulfilling as possible.

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